Talking Stick Radio, 8/31/13: “I’m doing this *to* myself”

This week on Talking Stick Radio we will be exploring the experience of ‘I am doing this to myself’ when things happen, when we experience challenges in life…. and empowering ourselves through the realization that “I am doing this to myself…”

This extends from our conversation last week that “I am doing this for myself” when we are doing chores or something that we feel resistance to …. I am doing this for myself.  Shift the frequency and therefore shift the experience.  Take back power … from yourself!

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Talking Stick Radio for 8/24/13: “I’m doing this *for* myself”

Self-empowerment and self-liberation go hand in hand. Explore this with us on this week’s edition of Talking Stick Radio.

 Where does your motivation come from — are you motivated from within yourself, or from something or someone outside you?  And how does that work in terms of being empowered?

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After the Show with Lisa McTavis – August 17, 2013

We began with Susan expressing how important it was for her lately to allow herself the time to do what she needed to do and chose to do. I concur heartily with that. Lisa gave a beautiful quotable line: “We are all the caretakers of our own well-being.”

Lisa shared with us that the book she has written really came from her Higher Self and she just followed along.

It begins with the idea that we’ve all been taught a huge lie that has been a part of our lives: everything good and worthwhile is outside of us. Absolutely not. It is actually totally the opposite of that: Everything that is good and worthwhile for us is within.

So the work is to get through the illusions and Lisa’s book can really help people to do that. A lot of the exercises in the book came from Lisa’s own experience working with herself and with clients. And this means that these are tried and tested exercises. Lisa’s advice about doing the exercises is to go slow and really apply the lessons and exercises to your life. She said, “They are simple, but there’s nothing about them that’s easy.”

Mistakes that we all make are part of the process of being alive. So we grow from our mistakes. We often hold unconscious fear about making mistakes… maybe I’ll lose… love, security, approval… a friend, etc.

We need to free ourselves from these unconscious fears.

Susan asked, “How do we love ourselves?” mentioning that it is a question that comes up fairly regularly on the Crimson Circle message board ( under the Community tab).

Lisa’s answer was that you break through the judgements and criticism by asking yourself, “How helpful is this?” And as you see that it isn’t actually realistic or helpful, you just let them go.

We realize that no one can do it for you; you are the only one who can actually give yourself love in any meaningful way.

Lisa said something profound again at the end of the show: “All that I need is me.” And it is only when we come to this point that we can truly feel safe, because we then do not need to rely on anyone else to affirm us, justify us, validate us…

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Join guest Lisa McTavis for Talking Stick Radio on August 17, 2013

Lisa McTavis, LMSW, will be joining Talking Stick Radio as a guest on August 17, 2013 at 10 AM Central, 11 AM Eastern. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and works at an agency as a mental health counselor.  She is the author of  a brand new book, “Journey into Loving You” and will be sharing about the book, which is based on what she learned as she stepped into the journey of loving and accepting herself and then refining the techniques as she worked with her clients.  If you’ve ever wondered to yourself, “well, they TELL us to ‘love ourselves’ — but how do you DO that??!!!”…then this is the show for you!  Feel free to call in during the show with questions for Lisa at 424-220-1870 or join us live online, or in the archives.   Direct link to the show:


After the Show With Marisa Calvi – August 10, 2013

We had a wide-ranging discussion today. We began with talking about taking our power back from linear time and the exigencies and imperatives of linear time.

Marisa shared the importance for her of letting go of expectations of what will be done by such and such a time. “I’ll have this much money in the bank… I’ll have this job or that career… I’ll have gotten all of these errands done by 5:00 pm…”

Susan shared by example how she feels into things, feels her physical body, how her body is feeling, her emotions too, and then speaks. “Let me feel into that…”

Susan shared also that the greatest freedom that she has experienced so far is to know “that I am.”

That got us into a discussion about freedom.

I had the insight that freedom is listening to myself and acting on that truth. Marisa was sharing when I had that insight and she was touching on that herself and helped me to realized that freedom is listening to myself.

I shared that when we state our intention to free ourself or to empower ourself… for example, “I am empowering myself to become a leader in my field” we might then have fear come up, doubt, anxiety or things might happen around us that seem to be obstacles, blocks, bad luck… And speaking for myself, I’ve always thought of these emerging doubts and fears as signs of my own weakness and inability to follow through on my intention. Because of something that I heard from the Pleiadian Collective channeled through Nora Herold ( from her August 6, 2013 teleconference, I now can see these emerging doubts and fears and obstacles as opportunities to acknowledge and learn from and send love to that within myself which has been a block in the past. As I state the intention, the fear or doubt comes up because it is there to be released. When it is acknowledged and released, then I am indeed free and able to accomplish all that I have intended to accomplish or be all that I have intended to be.

Susan shared a tradition of the Lakota people of North America that says that the greatest warrior does no harm. He carries not a weapon, but a coup stick, which is a weapon transformed into a work of art as a long stick with a curved front so that it cannot harm the other. His greatest achievement is to touch his opponent with this stick without himself being harmed. Susan believes that we are coming to a time when there is no more war.

We all agreed that we are, as a collective, all of humanity, opening up to freedom and acknowledging and releasing all the blocks and barriers to freedom that still exist both within us and in our societies.

Marisa shared her view that liberation is here, but that people do not know what to do with it.

Freedom comes when we take responsibility   for our own actions and for our own experiences. Marisa shared about this, as did Susan.

The ultimate freedom for all of us, is to acknowledge and know that I am God also. We could have spoken more of this, but our time was up.

I have to say that it was wonderful talking to Marisa. She is in the process of putting the finishing touches on her latest book, written with the help of Master Kuthumi, whom she channels and draws a great deal of guidance and wisdom from. Marisa’s website, very nicely laid out and informative, is

You are God also.


Marisa Calvi joins Talking Stick Radio on 8/10/13!

IMG_0704_smallMarisa Calvi, author, channel, radio host, and all-around Fun Person, joins us again to chat about who knows what.  Marisa joined us several months ago and as a result of being on our show, she said her life changed in some pretty significant ways.  She may talk about that, or she may not; she may talk about her food blog, her passion for frozen yogurt, her most recent book, or winter in Australia.  Feel free to call in live at 424-220-1870 or you can email us with a question for Marisa at  Join us and we’ll all be surprised at what we share from the heart! 

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After the show with Matt Kahn, August 3, 2013

First of all, the energy was amazing and really, the energy conveyed so much. The words are a sort of extra thing.

Matt answered my question about empowering himself to become the divine essence embodied as he is by saying that he always felt connected and guided, from a very young age. But he also said that when he realized that those Ascended Masters that were guiding him and he, the one being guided, were one, then he realized himself as the living embodiment of that divine essence that is love.

He began to see everybody else in the world around him as an opportunity to offer blessings. And he grew in his divinity by what he chose to offer to them. So, all that he offered to them as blessings became his experience and his blessing also.

He began to make always the choice to demonstrate and express his highest virtue, which was and is love. And he realized that all hearts are touched by every breath. It is instantaneous and effortless. It is the divine that we ARE, radiating outward from us.

I believe that Matt is a living example of what we are all becoming, and as such, he speaks volumes to us at this time because we are there. We are ready for his presence among us.

Matt was an empath, as so many of us are, and he was very confused in his feelings because he was feeling the emotions and energies of others and thinking that those were their feelings towards him. He found it difficult to feel connected and felt insecurity around that. He had a difficult time feeling part of the world. And many of us have had similar challenges. Eventually, he realized that nothing in this world will make him feel different about himself. Thus, he surrendered to his feeling and the misperceptions vanished. Then he was able to live as the light and the love that he is and that we are.

Now, he knows himself as no attribute, no quality, no personality, but rather as all of them. And I felt this within him as we were talking together.

He doesn’t need to give or receive information, only to give and receive love. And this is the way of the Master.

He mentioned that Aha moments are wonderful, but if you are not having Aha moments, it is because you are already there; you don’t need them. You already have realized that.

He mentioned, “I am what I am channeling.” And as one who channels also, I found that very helpful.

He also invited us to wake up from needing to use our minds so much. We don’t need to understand. We can just know whatever we know and trust that we know all when we need to know it.

“Why should I decide what I am, when there is nothing that I am not?”

Matt said a couple of other things that really resonated for me. He said,

that when you send love to yourself, you transform the cells in your body and that our willingness to love ourselves and to relax into all experience transforms the world. He said, “Don’t fight it; love it.”

He said, “This is the most loving thing I can do for myself.” Just say that before you eat something or light up a cigarette or watch a film… and your own being will guide you to that which is truly the most loving thing that you can do for yourself.

What you desire is only what expresses your highest virtue.

Set your intention and then make choices about what turns up for you that align with your intention.

Send love to your heart when your mind is active. When your mind is active, overly active, it is acting like an alarm to tell you to send love to your heart. Your heart will then open and your mind will become quiet. An open heart means a quiet mind. A loud mind is a signal to send love to your heart and center in your heart. Then your heart will open. Your mind will become quiet again. I’ll try this out and see if it works for me as a practice.

This show was a joy for us all. Listening to it will bring the benefits of Matt’s words, but even more so of Matt’s energy, which is divine. Literally divine.